It’s no mystery that dating and relationships are one of the primary places that throw so many of us out of a space of wholeness. It takes effort, intention, and time to get to a space where we feel truly at home in ourselves. And given that we are dynamic beings, constantly changing, our ability to feel that way is also an ongoing process. So putting ourselves in a situation where we combine our energy and our spirit with that of another person can put us at the risk of losing ourselves somewhere in the crossover.
We all know it’s not healthy to give our true selves away to anyone else, and yet true partnership really is about a mutual understanding and support that inevitably brings us to a space of feeling oneness with another. The removal of separation is healthy, but a losing of our highest “selves” within that separation is not. There is clearly a very fine line between the two. Both in dating and relationships, there is almost a tightrope that must be walked between the two before you can find your ground in the healthier side and, hopefully, remain put there.
This is why finding our own sense of fulfillment, wholeness, and love for yourself is of utmost importance before we can have what we want in the romance area of our lives. We must do the work in the area of wellness, career/purpose, healing from trauma or addictions, and getting to know our authentic selves before we can have everything we want romantically.
If you are ready to move toward being ready and capable of drawing in and creating the relationship you want, contact me to schedule a free consultation today!